Making the Most Out of Criticism

Let’s face it. Nobody likes being criticized. Yet, criticism is an inevitable part of every professional’s journey, whether you’re just starting out or you’re already at the top of your game. And as we all know, feedback isn’t always delivered kindly, especially if it comes from an anonymous source online.

Still, true professionals understand that even negative feedback can hold value, regardless of how it’s delivered. Instead of becoming defensive or dismissive, try these strategies to find the lessons (if any) and turn even harsh criticism into an opportunity for growth:

1️⃣ Look for the truth.

Even poorly delivered feedback may have a kernel of insight worth considering. Set your ego aside and see if there’s something you can learn.

2️⃣ If the delivery or source makes it hard to process, ask yourself:

Would this message resonate more if it came from someone else? Don’t dismiss feedback just because of who said it. Focus on the message, not the messenger.

Would I consider this feedback more seriously if it had been phrased more kindly? Again, separate the substance of the message from the tone. Even unpleasantly delivered feedback may contain helpful information.

The Bottom Line

Let me be clear—I’m not saying that rude or demeaning feedback is acceptable. But I am saying that letting your ego block you from assessing the validity of the critique can be a missed opportunity. If there’s something valuable to take away, be grateful for the insight and use it to grow. If not, let it go and stay focused on your goals.

Helping you Thrive,

Judy

Founder, Selby Strategies

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